Hamilton Memorial
I went to the memorial at Hamilton Elementary School today for our lost McGowan children. Mr. Davies did a wonderful job expressing so much of what we are feeling, Mr. Gremaldi read some of Paige's stories and we laughed and cried. Rayne's teacher shared a bit of Rayne's soul with us. We planted 2 trees in our new memorial garden ( how sad we have one, how beautiful it will be), Chase's tree is at the middle school. Patti Powell read a beautiful poem written by Janna Anderson. our kids cried, some quietly some sobbing. We parents weeped for those lost and more so for those that are left and do not understand. At the close 3 baloons were sent flying towards the sky for our Angels to play with, their souls meeting our hurting souls. Thank You so much to the family memebers that were able to come, as I said in the parking lot, I don't have words except God Bless you all.

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I prayed for you today...
On behalf of my entire family I would like to express my sorrow for your family's loss. You can only be responsible for your actions, not the actions of others. Forgiveness will provide peace and I pray that your entire family finds this. We pray for you daily.

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So So Sorry and Sad
Karen was just 5 something when we were around, swim overs, BBQ, Little league, Bill, you were a good coach, Lions Club, 6th grade graduation with Kim, Karen was such a major little firecracker even then. Im so sorry for your family and so sad there is no answer or reason for this terrible thing.

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IN THE END
This is not a place to bicker or judge. It does not matter if they are buried beside each other or in seperate places. Thier soles are already where they should be and we will never know what judgement was desided for Dave McGowan. I'm sure his family are all in heaven and God will decide his final fate.

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CW- Well Said
My tears are big and flowing reading CW From Mountain Center's note. It is so right on and really sums up this horrible act and terrible result. As I looked at my 5 year old tonight and gave her that hug and kiss as always when returning from work, I can't even fathom this selfish individual and his cruel act. I don't doubt that he was a nice man on the outside, but this hideous display of cowardness shows what this man really is made of. God will have the final word (already has) and I'm afraid that it will be a long ride back up for Mr. McGowan.

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Chase and Paige
May you rest in peace no one would discribe how some one can hurt as beautiful and smart children you were loved by every one at the Hamilton school . We will never forget you please show your support and the passing of these children by coming to our memorial on the 3rd of june peace be with you all and god bless .

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Remebering Chase and Pagie
My deepest Symathy goes to the poor children may you rest in peace you are safe no with your holy father my you have the best after life we will all miss you so very much .Peace be with you forever x x

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Remembering Our Mcgowan Angels
Shane,
All of us here at Hamilton school who worked with, and loved your siblings are sending our deepest sympathy to you. In honor of Chase, Paige and Rayne,I have made a memorial wall to remember their lives and what they meant to us. The wall is in the elementary cafeteria and students are filling the wall with sweet memories of these sweet children. I hope that this wall will help give the children hope and give meaning to the lives that were lost. We remember these angels, we will not forget these angels. We are having our memorial for the elementary school on June,3 and we hope you will be able to attend so that you will feel our support and feel comforted by the letters on our memorial wall. At the end of the year I will remove all of the letters and give them to you and your family so that you can share the memories we shared with your angels. Peace be with you for a lifetime,
Patti Powell

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To the Leonesio and McGowan Family
I went to Nellie Coffman with Kim and Kelly, Karens sisters. Kim was the "tough" one, Kelly the sweet one.
I never knew Karen, as she would have been only about 8 or 9 at that time.
My heart goes out to the family on both sides.
As far as the post saying that if David knew GOD, this never would have happened, I had to laugh. Is that so? Please save your preaching, as you do not know.
To Kim - my heart goes out to you. To Kelly - the same.
To the McGowan family, and to everyone involved - don't drive yourselves crazy looking for answers, but instead savor the wonderful memories you have of each and every one of the family members who left this earth way too soon.

tm

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why no new information?
My deepest sympathy to the surviving family and friends of this horrible deed. I hope some kind of answers come soon. It's been 2 weeks and there's been no more information than there was a day or so after this happened. I can't believe that there has been *nothing* else uncovered that would provide a clue as to why this man did this horrible act of violence. How can someone be capable of this and not leave a single clue other than song lyrics? I think of Andrea Yates, the Texas woman who drowned her 5 children. It was obvious she was deeply disturbed before she did what she did. Unfortunately, that knowledge didn't help her kids...But this is just so completely off the radar that it it inconceivable. I hope that the police are continuing to search for reasons behind this and that they will not keep the information from the public in an effort to protect themselves or "one of their own." This has made me look at everyone I know in a different light. The world has suddenly become a much more terrifying place.

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chase and pagie
I feel you in the morning
When at first I awake
Your thought is with me
With each decision I make

You'd been around forever
Since the first breath I took
Now I have to go on alone
But for love, I need not look

Cause by what you bestowed
In our short time together
Will last in my heart
Forever and ever

Although you've left
And now walk above
I'm never alone
I'm wrapped in your love

Enjoy now your long waited reward
Feel peace that your love continues on
What was taught to me, will be taught to mine
Cause you live on in me even after you've gone

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where was CCPD
to answer your question CS from Palm Springs. The family made a request that no uniforms or police cars be present during the funeral. The officers were present but wearing suits to honor the request of both families. It's amazing how quickly everyone is quick to pass judgment on all involved and many have used this as a personal soap box to make several uninformed inaccurate comments.

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Memories of Karen
Twenty years ago, almost to the day, I met Karen as she was building her house next door to us. We both had two year olds that were wild as March hares. For the next ten years her and Shane were almost part of our family. Karen is the only other woman I knew who would have a cigar with me. She and my husband would play Led Zeppelin on the guitars watching these wild little boys grow up. I remember once, the boys had cut the cat's whiskers off and that little grin on Karen's face and her shaking her head trying not to laugh. We explained to the boys, the kitties needed their whiskers to find their way. This was one of many mischievious instances we shared together with the boys. Somehow it always seemed Karen identified alittle to well with the antics of the kids. Karen the planet will miss you and your beutiful spirit. Yet i know our loss is Heaven's gain. So until I see you again I'm going to remember those days by cranking up Led Zeppelin and having a cigar in your honor. When you see Crissy give her my love and know I love you both, Peace and Love to the Family. Nancy Johnston

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Where were you Cathedral City PD?
I attended the mcgowan funeral and have to admit I was totally stunned at the large number of Cathedral City Fire Department members in attendance, and in uniform in support of a past employee, Karen McGowan. Dave McGowan served over 15 years with the Police Department, yet there was NOT A SINGLE uniformed police officer in the crowd. Shame on your Cathedral City Police Department. It could be possible that the years of witnessing the terrible day to day calls of this job was one of the possible many reasons Dave may have acted as he did.

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The Legacy
I can appreciate the sympathy and the outpouring of love towards the surviving family members of this grandmother, mother and three beautiful children. I can understand the "descriptive words" expressed by those with past memories of David McGowan. However, do not forget how he fooled you and everyone that knew him. I am angry at the thought of David McGowan being placed on some sort of pedestal as the "All American Guy" and "Wonderful Husband and Father." This is a man who most likely sat across the dinner table that night looking into the eye's of his innocent children as they discussed their day and the eyes of his wife and mother, knowing full well that he would be killing them in their sleep only hours later. A monster. This is a man who was so calculated, he had to call 911, as the selfish grand finale, knowing it would air to the public so the whole world could hear him kill himself. The drama king. The only legacy David McGowan leaves behind him is that of being a mass murderer - that is the true legacy he leaves behind. David McGowan was missing his "soul" to be able to murder his own innocent children, wife and mother. It sickens me to know that someone like this lived within my community. My heart breaks for those innocent children losing their lives and that of his beautiful wife and loving mother. I extend my sympathy to Shane. I send to you all the powers of hope to help you in your everyday life from this point forward. You truly are the brave soldier.

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Through your sorrow, know that your family is where we all hope to be one day. They have slipped the surly bonds of earth and have looked into the face of almighty God, a joy we all must wait for.

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The Children of the McGowan
For the poor children we will miss seeing you quys plaing you were such great and fun children you will remain in my heart god bless you

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Deeply Sorry
How could I throw away a miracle?
How could I face another day?
It's all of my doing, I made a choice
And today, I pay
My heart is full of pain

How could you understand, the way I feel?
How could you relate to so much pain?
Seems as though nothing can comfort me
So today, I pray
That someone should listen, for...

Nothing should matter
Not when love grows inside you
The choice is yours
There's a miracle in store...
Nothing should matter
Not when love grows inside you
A voice of love is crying out
Don't throw love away
There's a miracle in store...

How could I let go of a miracle?
Nothing cold ever take its place
Thought I was looking, out for myself
Now it seems the pain
Is all that I have gained
I wonder if I could be your miracle
I wonder if I could spare you pain
Seems as though nothing will comfort me
Lord, less today, I pray
That you should come listen



Don't ever throw away your miracle
Don't let it slip away
Nothing should matter

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Memories and hope for Shane
Shane i am sure you don't remember me but i have been your grandma Angie's & grandpa Larry's neighbor for 20 yrs. I saw you at the services thursday and today. I could not belive how grown up you are! I of course got to hear all about you thru your grandparents and you aunts and uncles. How very proud they where and are of you. I am gonna miss Angie with all my heart. There is a big hole in my heart left by the loss of her, your dad and mom and the munchkins. I Also have faith as she did that a faithfuly lived life is rewarded and she is With her husband in heaven.She was a great lady.I just wanted to say i have watched your family from the time you where just a little, guy grow and change and what a heart warming sight it was i have all these photographs and still frames in my mind of you all comeing for visits and holidays.And what a big crowd it grew to be all those Mc Gowan grand babies! But what a happy and loving family the Mc gowans where. And once all the holes in our souls heal will be again. Here are some photos in my mind i would like to share with you. You, Dave and Sparky playing ball in the yard. You grinning ear to ear laughing at Daves bad thow.You arriving at grandmas house with the new babies carring the diaper bags with the big brother importance. Your family stopping by after a trip to mexico and seeing you all on bikes going around and around the loop. With your mom sitting on grandpa's bench with your dad standing behind her with his hand on her shoulder laughing at all of you. Then grandma comeing out with her silly yellow work gloves on and standing behind your dad with her hand on his back, all three smiling and laughing as you all rode your bikes. And after you where away your brother and sisters playing in the yard, Paigy reading a book on the swing and Chaser getting a stick and tickling her on the neck startaling her, she jumped up and started to chase him around the yard all the while Rayne-Riley was bursting out in laughter at the whole thing. Happy times. Alot of love.I hope these stillframes in my mind bring fourth all the memories of the the wonderful times your family shared hold tight to them. You have a great support system and family who loves you with all their hearts and always has. Until we find out what happened and i am hopeing it will all come to light soon. Remember as i always will the family across the steet who showed all the love in the world and looked so happy to be together.Dave loved you from first sight as fast as he fell for your mom he fell for you.He was so proud of you and your mom was so proud of who you had become. I know your grandparents shared in all those feeling as well as the rest of the family.God bless you shane and keep you close to his heart. I know everyone who knew you and your family are. If you ever need us we are here across the steet from John Waynes house. Rest in peace Angie, we will miss your chili and torts and you kind gentle voice and smile, Dave we will miss your goofy grin and heart warming smile, Karren your attitude and spark in your eyes that showed a love for life. Chase, Paige and Rayne your freckled faces fair skin missing tooth grins. With the same light in your eyes as your mom. God speed.

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Shane and family
Dear Shane, my heart
aches for you; just be comforted in knowing that your family members are where we all wish to be one day. They have slipped the surly bonds of this world, and have looked into the face of almighty God
to experience the joy that we must wait for.Bless you and all the members of your family.

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Illness
Not one person here is trying to justify what Dave did, there is no justification. I worked with Dave for over 15 years and he was a great friend, father and man. Despite that, what he did was beyond horrible. Shane, Karens son, made the decision to have the family buried together. Many people may not agree with this, but he knew how Dave was in life. In life, Dave was great to his family and friends. Every day he spoke of his children and Karen. Nobody will ever know why this happened. Mental illness can bear heavily on someone, but to many people are embarrased or ashamed to seek help. Unless you've been there or effected by mental illness, you have no room to talk. I have. Again, I do not justify what Dave did, nor will I ever. Knowing Dave, he is not a coward, he fell victim to a mental illeness he didn't get help for. We have a society that looks down on those who admit they need help. It's considered a weakness and you forever live with that stigma.

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It is a tragedy that this man had to end the lives of his family, I do not understand any reason behind it- its absolutely insane. This man should not have been buried near them, I am sure his family is not forgiving him for not allowing them to grow up and be role models to their own children. Its selfish and had he lived everyone would have a different tone in their voice, and not feel sorry for this monster who killed his own children. I am sure they knew what was going on they felt the pain he instilled in each and every one of them, and now they have to sit back and hear all these ignorant people who praise this villain because he was such a great man--People wake up he was not a graet hero he is the devils apprentice- he took the life of 5 innocent people. I feel pain for the one's who are left behind, and it's ok for them to relieve their anger as well except people would slap them in the face for expressing anger, and rage. He is a man who deserves to burn in hell for all eternity- there is no forgiveness for such a coward.

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Shane
Perhaps everyone might stop thinking about themselves and their thoughts and opinions and think of Shane. Rather than spend all this time and energy "bickering" about what is appropriate expression for this board or whether Dave is good or evil, let's remember that there is a young man, who just lost his entire family. A young man who is bravely serving our county in Iraq and putting his own life on the line for all of us. A young man, who had to be informed that his stepfather for visrtually his entire life just committed a murder suicide on his family. A young man, who had to make a grueling 25 hour trip home to face that reality. A young man, who no longer has a family to return from war to. It's no longer about Dave or our petty opinions, it's about the family left behind, particularly Shane.
The Riverside County Sheriff is accepting donations on behalf of Shane. He will be returning to Iraq in a month with an unknown future and no mother ("she was my best friend")to write with. Take your time and energy to honor the McGoverns, who have passed by taking care of Shane rather than wasting time debating the right and wrong of opinions.

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Who Are We to Judge
Those left to continue on their life journey will never know why this tradegy happened. Only God knows the reason. We have all committed sins, whether small or large I believe God is a forgiving God and judgment will come to each of us by God. Its not for anyone to judge this man and his actions, thats between him and his God. Its never possible to know the exact condition of another persons soul. When we see someone who by open defiance of the laws of God seems to have cut himself off from the friendship of God, rather than pass judgement, thank God for the grace given to us and pray for the sinner.
I remember Karen from school and pray for her family and her son. When you get trough the shock of all this and your grieving begins hold tight to your beliefs and your love for those that have gone home to paradise. I pray that you all find peace and will in time be able to find comfort to continue on the journey of life.
God bless you all

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Not the Place
I disagree with those that think this is the place to say anything negative regarding this tragedy. It clearly states at the top what this site is about. I showed this to my 10 year old daughter Brianna yesterday to see if she could share some of the pain of what she is feeling and sent it to Hamilton School to share with all of our children there, to help relieve their pain. And now, they see this? Please make yourself an opinion board if you want. Let this be for those that need it. I clearly see how deep my child's pain is when she couldn't express it. I thought it was bad the day the media ran across the street to try and interview my baby and she ran to her school for safety. Please let us have a place to grieve together. Let the children of Hamilton have a place to voice their love. Shane, you don't know what it meant to the children of the middle school to see you yesterday. I hope you are still here when the elementary school has theirs. Your little sister's have alot of precious friends who miss them and they will never be forgotten.

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c. cole
Can't beleive We won't be able to have the McGowan's over for a bar-b-que. We recently bought a boat and a trailer and we know they would have enjoyed that. We miss you guys and are praying for Dave's soul. I pray that the family are all together in heaven.
This give me peace.
I'll never understand his reason for what he had done. I can only focus on my friends and family to make sure I listen alittle closer and ask more questions.
We love you McGowan's.
God Bless you all

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Right to express
What happened was wrong, and yes even an outrage. But it is ovious David did not know God, or it would not have happened. Thats said. Daivd was oviously in alot of pain and very sick. Thats said. This was not a man who enjoyed killing. This was not a man who hated his family. This was not a man who had criminal intentions. This was not a man trying to bring attention to himself. This was not a man who intended to hurt all his friends.This was not a man who was losing his job. This was not a man with any money problems. This was not a man who cares about your pulblic right to express. This is not a form for public opion. Dave can not be prosecuted. Everyone knows what how tragic this was. Let us be sad about what has happened. Ok. so you area outraged. For someone who has no clue what happened or how the friend and family feel and never knew Dave or the family, please do not feel the need to express your opinion, it's not helping and had no meaning. Dave was Shane's stepfather. He loved and Idolized Dave and still remembers what a great person and father Dave was. So maybe sit back and think to yourself. Maybe I'm not seeing the whole picture. Why isn't everyone sad for Dave too.I was just as close to Karen as I was Dave, if not more. As tragic as this is, I believe Karen would still say,"If you don't have any positive input dude, just mind your own business. So instead of siting around being outraged, come up with something costructive like thinking of ways to provent things like this so a close friend of yours doesn't get that sickness. Dave was Shane's stepfather. Shane not only got along with Dave but idolized him. How many children at his age when they married love their stepfather that much.

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KAREN
Karen and I were friends in Jr. High. Some of my fondest memories of her were the times I spent the night and we would listen to Bad Co. and eat the homemade beef jerkey her dad made. I can remember her protecting me when I was being picked on, and the time at N.N.C. when a big fight broke out and she took the cast off her broken arm to fight. She was crazy that way. I will never forget you and I'm glad that I got to see you that time you came into Denny's in Yucca Valley. I wish I could have met your other children. Love Always!

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The public have a right to express, too
I feel much compassion for the surviving members and friends of the McGowan family, but I do not believe that the public should be barred from expressing their appropriate anger here, also. I am not only a law abiding citizen who is shocked to the core that one who swore to "serve and protect" took so many lives, but I was briefly touched personally as well. I had a phone conversation last year with Dave McGowan as we were victims of a financial felon he was investigating. So I, also, feel very much affected and taken aback by this horrendous crime. Those of you who are outraged because the public feels the to vent here, too, should be much more understanding. Those of you who are outraged that we are outraged should see this as just how much more unsafe the public feels. I feel as violated as I would by this as if I still lived in Southern California.

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I am so so sorry...
...I knew Dave a very long time ago. He dated a friend of mine and was always the nicest person. Funny, polite and caring. Even after breakups and losing touch, he still remembered my parents whom he only meet once or twice again through the frined of mine, but he was always polite and spoke kindly to them. I pray for the family and know that God will in His way ease their pain.

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I never met this extraordinary family
I have read all these messages which tell how fine David McGowan was. He was in a dark and lonely place of suffering so leave the judgement to God. Those who knew the family. remember the good times. How can we know another's tormended soul? GIve your love and attention to the surviving son who will live with this pain for the rest of his life. I cannot imagine his sorrow.

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people i knew but are still here
they are in my heart they are in my soul my soul will live on firever i will live for a never
pagie is a friend of mine i miss her she was like a sister to me i never will forget her smiling face since she lives in my dreams every day i awake with a scracth from her its like her goasts lives in my dreams and will never let me forget the friend of my life time pasts

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people i knew but are still here
they are in my heart they are in my soul my soul will live on firever i will live for a never
pagie is a friend of mine i miss her she was like a sister to me i never will forget her smiling face since she lives in my dreams every day i awake with a scracth from her its like her goasts lives in my dreams and will never let me forget the friend of my life time pasts

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dear Paige
my friend Paige your my friend i cant beleave what happend for some reason i feel it is my falt your death was so suddon i cried i was afraid to fall asleep just the thought that you were killed makes me shake i rit a peom for u it is called hello just today we said hello know i feel shallow amd mellow we would talk on the bus know all i here is a thrus now today we say good bye it makes me want to cry and cry your the friend i will never forget because your the friend i just met i miss you paige your my friend and always will be in my heart

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My friend Paige
paige is my friend its sad what happend i miss her sooo much

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Show mercy everyday...
0430 i was taking a shower in Idyllwild. 0511 i left my home to work in the desert. i passed their home a few min. later.
It was dark. i saw nothing but the beautiful stillness of Garner Valley and as i watched the mist rise above Lake Hemet, sweet weary spirts found their way home to our Lord.
Today take a moment to look into the eyes of those you work with. Try to see beyond your own ego. Let's show mercy in all our thoughts and deeds. No one is perfect, just pretending to be whatever they think you want them to be.
We never know, do we, the sort of pain we sweep past each day. I wish I could rewind to 0400 that day and he would make a call to the suicide hotline or his church. In the name of Jesus I pray a blessing of peace on the hearts of all those affected.Amen.

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One more
I felt i would write one last message on this board... i am a cousin William Leonesio, I couldnt help but notice the funeral photos. I saw my father in one of the pictures. Dad i just wanted to say that I am so sorry, you know that if i could have made it i would. I did everything in my power to make it to the funeral but still I failed, and i am sorry for that. I would also like to say sorry to my lil bro, Michael, you knew them better than me! Whitch is pretty ironic. Nikki i knew that you loved all of them and i am also sorry to you that i did not have the chance to come down there and see how big you have grown you must have been pretty broke up about losing all of them. We will all have to find a way throgh this... it will be hard! But we will conquor our, anger and sadness

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Who's Disgracing Who
It's getting harder and harder not to write a response to some of the people that have posted messages on this site...please read the introduction carefully...it specifically states 'memories,prayers and most importantly well-wishes' for the survivors of this awesome family. No-where does it indicate that personal 'opinions' or 'possible scenarios' for WHY this happened are the purpose of this page. Although many of us who personally "knew" this family have incredibly heavy hearts, none of us wish to add more pain and confusion to Bill, Carol, Kim, Kelli and Frank. So please don't do so yourselves. If you feel the need to express your personal opinions,your outrage at the decisions made by the surviving family members, your own inquiries about WHY, please do so at your next psychotherapy appointment, if you don't have an appointment, get one! because you need it. As for me, I know this family, and have known them for many years, and I personally stand behind them on any and all decisions they have made and will make in the future in regards to this terrible tragedy. Leave them alone so they can grieve. They deserve the respect.
And most importantly, choose your words carefully, this family has just suffered a loss that most of us will never endure. Keep the postings related to them.
For all the Leonesios I love you deeply.

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Hard Goodbye
Two of my children were friend's of Chase and Paige's for years and will always have great memeories of them. We parents of Hamilton School grieve for the loss of life but also the loss of innocence in our small community. The question of why will probably never be answered. All we can do is pray for their lost souls. A family gone, but never forgotten. I pray for all of our public service people that may not be able to find a safe haven for their problems. God Bless the McGowan's and God Bless us all.

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Our Prayers
My Children and their Father got to know the McGowan's during the Ramona Play. They are all devistated by this loss. I have heard seperate comments from each on how wonderful this family was. I am sorry I did not get to know them myself. We would like to extend our deepest sympathy, and prayers to Shane and family.

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I am so sorrry
I did not know the family but I can not help but think of what this terrible tragedy has done to the family left behind. There must be so many questions and yet no answers. Shane, this will by far be the worst tragedy in your life. Take strength from your family and friends as you need it and just take one day at a time. Remember all the good times. You truly sound like a remarkable young man and I pray that you will be able to move on in due time. Always remember to talk when you need to, cry if you feel like it.

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Forgiveness
I can't believe all the low minded people who are leaving messages here.
Perhaps you don't realize than surviving members of this family are reading these words.
Like the grandmother, Carol said, none of us are going to find healing without forgiveness.
I'm sure glad that you people are God, the ultimate judge! You know nothing of what lead to this. You don't get to have an opinion. It's non of your business. The ONLY THING any of us should be doing at this point is helping Shane and the rest of the family cope with this tragedy.
These words of hatred and mean-spritedness is not helping anything.
If you can't find words of comfort to leave here, then leave nothing!
Shame on all of you hate-filled, low-minded interlopers.
Just go away and leave this family in peace.

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i did not know the family but wanted to send my sympathy to the family members left behind to deal with this heartbreak. i also find it hard to believe that in one day investigators were able to determine "EXACTLY" what happened in that house. i don't mean to criticize their investigation but it seemed to be summed up a little too quickly that he killed his family and himself, especially with all of the wonderful things everyone said about Dave. perhaps investigators rushed too quickly to determine what really happened. i hope they find out what really happened and if they were incorrect, apologize for ruing Dave's reputation while he wasn't alive to defend himself. no matter what, i wish the surviving family much love and hope that time will help heal.

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To My Wonderful Family
I am really shocked that Uncle dave would do something like this. I loved him very much. We always would do cool stuff together. Shane, I love you so much and want you to Know that I'm here for you. My pretty Paige, were really close she was like my little sis. Rayne Ryliey is the most precious cousin. Chaser was a trooper he went through alot. He would take me riding on his motorcycle, he is the coolest 14yr. old kid. Antie Karen& uncle Dave were the best they would always take me camping. REST IN PEACE WONDERFUL FAMILY! LOVE YOU GUYS!

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What a Mess
This is the most horrific thing that could happen yet people think so highly of a murderer, I know that Karen and those beautiful children will be with God, and shane you will have alot of support and love here, but as for you David, good luck in hell!!

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Sleep in Peace Beautiful Family
It is only now after attending the memorial service I can write. although the tears are still being shed. I am a part time report for the Anza valley outlook. I interviewed Paige when she won first place in the science fair. I had spelt her name wrong and she looked at me and said "Excuse me it is Paige P A I G E." David told me how proud the family was she had won. He said it had been a family project. they were the nicest people anyone who knew them thought so. My son matt was friends with Chase, very well rounded young man. so i close with this Sleep in peace beautiful family.. shane our prayers are with you your family has touched an entire community both in life and now in death.

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Prayers and Thoughts
I never knew the McGowan family personally, but like everyone else, am so touched by the saddness of the situation. Having experienced the same type of tradgedy in my own family many years ago, I can feel and understand the pain. Let not one of us Judge, for their is only one Judge. We will all meet him one day. Though we may never know what went on in Dave's mind that fateful nite, we all need to unite to pray for the surviving family, and hope that they find some peace in knowing that we all care.

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Saden about the mean remarks
To those of you that did not know David or the family, I understand how you can be appalled at the way friends and family speek of David. I would feel the same. When I see or hear of similar crimes, I say the same things some of you people are saying. We make no excueses for David or excuse what his sickness has done to him, his family and all their friends. I guess it could never be clear enough to anyone who did not know David or Karen. It's not a cliche that Daivd and Karen were the greatest people I knew. David was only human and we can brake down. I pray that none of you appalled people come down with the same sickness.If this happened to almost anyone else I knew, I would not wright in and express my feelings. So, say a prayer or let your heart go out to the family and friends, but try not to be appalled.

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Shocked
I am totally absolutely shocked that David would murder his own family. I am devistated! To find out that Mr. McGowan would be buryed with his family, just makes me very angry to know he will be buryed with his family. He dose not deserve the honor to be buryed by Karen and Rayne,Paige,and Chase. Not even the SKUM of the earth killed their family. Why them? Why such great kids? Why such great people? Even his own brother thinks it is wrong (scroll down). I feel the same anger and sadness that i know the Leonesio family is feeling right now. I am very sorry: William,Carol and of corse Frank Leonesio. Don't think David will be going to heaven for that one....

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Absolutely Appalled
I think its absolutely appalling that Mr. Mcgowen should share the same funeral services with his wife and kids. The headlines make it sound like if these family died in a traffic accident. People are quick to forget that this man, intelligent and professional as he may have been, murdered his family, brutally; Innocent children innocent people. If those children were alive today, I'm quite sure they would not want to be anywhere near their father. No sirry, I tell you an injustice has been done here. To be killed, then to share funeral services with your killer. My Condolences, and may the Lord have mercy on the five victims, especially the children.

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To family & friends
My deepest condolences go to the family and friends of Karen and David McGowan. This family's tragedy has saddened me as it saddens so many others who, like me, a stranger, never met the McGowans but only know of them from reading the news articles of the last week. I am sure I would have loved them if I'd known them in person.

I would like to understand why this occurs and how it can be prevented. I've met others who did similar crimes against themselves and their children. Like David McGowan, they were thought to be very sweet wonderful people. I hope that if there are ever answers to why this has occurred that the answers may be used to prevent others from doing this same kind of crime.

After getting through the first round of shock and pain, I hope that some who knew the McGowan family might choose to share information with others who can help find ways to prevent this kind of tragedy.

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My two buddies
Dave, I want to thank you for always being there for me when I needed something or just wanted to talk. I was always too busy with my own petty issues and never once would have thought you had any serious problems with life. I know you were never concerned with what other people thought of you and especially now. I just wish people would try a little harder to understand the pain you must have been going through and the love you had for your family. Dave, I know you may never believe this, but you were sick. You were standing in a corner, not being able to see what was really going on around you. I believe you thought you were doing the right thing for you and the family. You did not have to live up to your higher expectations. I wish you could have embraced life the same way Karen did.

May 10th was my 19th Webbing Anniversary. Cindy really misses you and still can not except what has happened. As a family who knows God, we will get through this and our love will make us stronger than ever. I hope I did not embarrass you too much when I told other people how great I thought you were. Well Dave I don't need anything else, yes I'm sure. O.K. I won't hesitate to call if there is anything I need.

Karen,

I'm so sorry, I miss you so much. I know you and the kids will put in a good word for Dave. I bet the bass are huge there and you don't have to worry about getting sea sick. It's all catch and realese now. Karen, I looked up to you more than you could ever know. You lived life to the fullest and never afraid to take a risk. But you'll never get me out with you into the ocean in your little bass boat. I'm sorry we didn't catch that 150 pound tuna or see that David Gilmour concert together. I love your kitchen, and I see you got a Dodge truck. Who is coping who now. Keep practicing with the conventional reels, you'll get it. Save that Cubin for me and we'll smoke it later. Well tired of playing phone tag, your it.

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For The Record
I want to clear some things up if I can for people who are wondering why David's law enforcement brothers have not responded, and what was going on with his mom. This is a private family. His brothers do not want to talk to the media, that is their business. They have to deal with this tragedy, and most of us outsiders don't. Let them grieve, and leave them alone. For Dave's mom, Angie, she did not move in with Dave, she was just visiting. Her husband passed away almost two years ago and she was very upset. This was an inseperable couple, and she took his death hard. She loved her grand kids, and wanted to be around them more. She just started to leave the house when this happened. There was no "drama" with Dave's mother, just a woman who was grieving the loss of her husband. And as far as who was taking care of her finances, that is her family's business, not our's. Something in Dave snapped, we don't know what, nor will we ever. I am a good friend of the McGowan family, and I'm tired of people hounding his family for information they don't even have. Let them grieve, and let them be...just think if the shoe was on your foot? Thank You

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I still say it could started as an accident
The first shot could have been an accident. That could explain the two shots to the wife. He shot her accidentally, but she wasn't dead. He shot her again to relieve her suffering. Then in his shock and pain, he wanted to kill himself, but didn't want to leave the kids behind without either of them, so decided they'd all be better off dead. Hence, the Woe is me. I look forward to seeing you in the next life.

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SELFISH INDIVIDUAL
I MYSELF WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND WHY MEN/WOMAN DECIDE TO PLAY GOD, AND TAKE WHOM THEY WANT WITH THEM, SELFISH AND COWARDLESS PEOPLE. IF THEY FOR SOME REASON WANT OUT, THEN FINE DO WHAT U WANT AND LEAVE IT AT THAT. LEAVE THE REST TO LIVE AND BE HAPPY. I DIDN'T KNOW THE FAMILY BUT I COULD JUST IMAGINE WHAT THEY ARE GOING THRU, AND YES MY PRAYERS ARE WITH THEM, SO SORRY. AND I'M SORRY THAT I'M ANGRY

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Fitting Song
I heard this song the other day and thought of them.....

Shine a little brighter
Feel a little more
They touch your life in ways
No one has done before
They love a little stronger
They live to give their best
They make our lives so blessed

Why do they go so soon
The ones with souls so beautiful
I heard someone say
They must be borrowed angels
Here is this life
They come along
Into this world
And make this world bright
But they can't stay forever
Because they're Heaven sent
And sometimes, Heaven needs them back again

Reach a little deeper
Could see what's in your soul
And even when we leave you know
You'll never let them go
The world's a little richer
Just cause they came along
Their love goes on and on

Why do they go so soon
The ones with souls so beautiful
I heard someone say
They must be borrowed angels
Here is this life
They come along
Into this world
And make this world bright
They can't stay forever
Cause they're Heaven sent
And sometimes, Heaven needs them back again


How else can you explain
Why their here but not here to stay
I believe there must be,
Must be borrowed angels
Here in this life
They come along
Into this world
And make this world bright
They can't stay forever
Cause they're Heaven sent
And sometimes, Heaven needs them back again
And sometimes, Heaven needs them back again

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Luke 6:45
"The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart."

The McGowans had many years of life ahead of them, but was snatched away by evil. Everyone says Dave was a good man, but he did not have the God given strength to fight off the evil spirits inside. He allowed them to rule, instead of Christ. I'm not here to preach (those who know me, know that), but to say that without Christ ruling in their hearts, anyone is capable of this evil. Nobody knows when life will end, which makes it so important to be close to God. Only then will we "see you in the next life." You ask, "How far is Heaven?" Only a simple prayer away.

My heart goes out to the family and friends that are so closely affected. My prayer is that many will turn to God for comfort, strength.

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An Amazing Woman
Karen and David were my friends and lived down the street from me. I was in their home a few weeks ago. They were finishing the remodel on the kitchen and both Karen and David were working on it that day. I was driving by the house recently and stopped to chat with the kids playing outside. We talked about how much they looked like their mom and how much they had grown in the five years since I met them. They were the perfect "Ozzie & Harriet" family. The children were a pleasure to be around. Very well-behaved, well-mannered, respectful to their parents and always polite to me. Karen and David were the nicest people you could know. They would do anything for anybody and not expect (nor accept) anything in return. Their life centered around the children and they spent most every weekend doing things for the kids. One day when I stopped by the house, I noticed another dog in the yard. Karen told me they had gone down to Mexico, and in the middle of nowhere with nothing around for miles, there was this dog. So what else could they do but bring him home with them...good, good people.

Karen wore many "hats". If ever there were a "Renaissance Woman", then Karen fit the bill. She had both the knowledge and physical ability to do most tasks you'd think of a man doing. She could do anything and do it well. Karen was often seen working in the neighborhood wearing her signature "ball cap", and sometimes even a "hard hat" when cutting down trees. But she was always home by the time the kids got back from school, putting on her "mommy hat" and devoting the rest of the day to her family. I remember being surprised when I learned that Karen was also an artist and played the guitar as well. What an amazing woman.

I consider myself fortunate to have known this very special family.

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Thinking of you always
I knew Karen from high school and her brother was one of my brothers very good friends.9 years ago when I volunteered in my sons classroom I would seee this lady sitting on the swings outside of class waiting for her child. She looked at me and I looked at her for a good three days before I told her how familiar she looked. Our talk turned to our maiden names and I can still remember her voice today "you're Mark Ratliff's little sister!" and my respose "you're Frank Leonesio's little sister".From there we would talk a little bit each day before I went in to help with the kids. Chase was in my sons class and I remember him like it was only last year that they were running around all excited to have their own playground because thet were kindergarteners now. Karen and Chase I am so sorry for your family but I will see in Heaven one day and we will catch up on everything.

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how could it be a hit...
... if the killer called the cops? No professional hit man would call the cops. Even an amateur isn't that dense. If you want to drum up conspiracy theories that the hit was done in such a way that it implicates McGowan, then go join the Grassy Knoll crowd. The blood evidence, which is irrefutable, clearly indicates McGowan methodically walked through his house and capped his entire family. End of story.

As numbing as this kind of thing is, I can't count the number of times I've read how "normal" and "happy" the killer was before plugging his whole family. Look at Scott Peterson and Mark Hacking. Marcus Wesson--though clearly and outwardly a nutjob, unlike McGowan, killed 9 of his own children in Fresno last year. I don't want to be insensitive to the community and to those who knew and respected these people, but there's a lot that goes on behind closed doors. Things very few, if any people, know about. It was clear they were a private family and there may have been a great deal of discord that was concealed by the careful facade that many of us put on for the sake of our jobs, friends, and even our immediate family. Consider some of the thoughts each of us permit ourselves to think, randomly and in passing. Consider that those thoughts can develop, grow, and fester in the mind. It happens every day. This, of course, absolutely in no way justifies what happened here. All of us can have our demons, especially those that develop in the privacy of our lives, and we each have to be very cautious to guard our emotions and thoughts. Though we may find there were other factors involved, it is quite probable this man did not guard himself against his own thoughts and it is the unfathomability of mental disease that both fascinates and repels us.

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Shane, there is hope.
When things were too painful to bear, and the mind was engrossed with confusion, anger, fear, disappointment and emptiness, I held on tightly to a "red thread" which connected me with God. That was the only reason why I survived, and later on, healed. I call that red thread faith...
Shane, God is sharing your pain right now, pour out your heart to him, he listens and he cares. Yes, he cares.

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Not for one second
do I believe that this happened as reported. Use your brains, people. A serious crime has been committed against the reputation of a respected member of the community.

This was a professional hit. Why haven't we heard from the two law enforcement bros of Dave McGowan? Why haven't we heard more about the drama with Dave's mom? Who started the proceedings to take over her finances? What triggered her sudden move into Dave's home?

The neighbors have got to know that a silencer was used.

BTW, what happened to the dogs?

Anyone checked the phone records?

Why don't we investigate this crime? For real, this time.

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from shore to shore
As one reads the thoughts, words of kindness, questions asked, WHY is the word that epitimizes these articles...there are some powerful messages here..from the atlantic ocean to the pacific ocean.."why" isn't going to fix anything,it's not an elixer.By the time we ask "why" it's already too late..i agree with Joe Footdale that those with higher powers should step to the podium and speak up..we can't hear you.. We want a response not your silence.Most of the comments reverberate to depression as the possible reason for this tradgedy..we ask much of our police officers..This travesty is a cruel and horrific wake up call . Give all these people a silent round of applause for taking the time to paint the words without a brush. If anyone out there is suffering any kind of mental torment, seek help. Put your pride aside before you hurt a loved one or yourself. It's too late for these six precious people but for the rest of us, we can still "read them and weep".

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There is only one Judge
Whenever we hear of someone who is so broken, so desperate, when their soul is so tormented that the only solution they have is to wipe out their family and then themselves, we (especially in the law enforcement community) often look at this person as a selfish coward who most certainly had options but chose not to take them.

Then someone you know, someone who was your friend does this and it really hits home. I, like everyone else who knew Dave and Karen want to know just one thing; why? But unless someone who might have any indication comes forward, we will never know. What I do know, or believe rather, is that there is only one who will judge Dave for what he did.

I guess the forgiveness part is left up to us as individuals, to weigh Dave the person we all knew against Dave the person who murdered his family and took his life.

I agree with Retired Chief Johnson, in that I want to remember Dave in a positive way. It would be nice to see some of Dave's past supervisors at CCPD come out from hiding and take a bit of a risk by imparting some kind words about this man. I also agree with John Meyer, in that we should never try to hide or ignore mental disorders, especially depression. To those who left only their initials or remained anonymous, don't be afraid to write your feelings and sign your name to them.

What I am am going to teach myself as my fondest memory of Dave is working out with Brad and Dave at Brad's Mid City Gym, and making our famous video documentary that we dubbed "Pumping Iron III." Working with Dave for me was a pleasure.

My heart goes out to Shane, both sides of Dave and Karen's families, and to all their friends that are sharing this shock.

Dave, if you do make it to heaven, you will be reunited with our good friend Brad. I hope you guys have some great workouts.

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Sympathy from old neighbors
Dear Bill, Carol and all of the Leonasio family. We are sorry beyond words and our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.
Dori and kids,
Deb, Candee, Toni and Boomer

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My Heartfelt Sympathy
I didn't know the family but my heart is so sad reading this ... how a man could do this to his family ... so very sad ... my heart goes out to you Shane may you find peace in all of this. God Bless You.

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Had to Hide the Sickness
To Dave,
I worked with you Dave at CCPD for 6+ years. I rode with you, fought bad guys with you, comforted families with you, broke bread with you, and went through political problems that all cops experience with you. You were the perfect profile of a law enforcement professional, family man & friend. Laura & I enjoyed seeing you and Karen build your first dream home. What Chief Johnson said was true, you were a great salesman, (but maybe too good.)
Your acting and salesmanship abilities facilitated the clandestine way you dealt with your mental illness/es.
Some of us have turned to alcohol, others to drugs (perscription or not), others to violence in the home, others to gambling, and still others to extramarital affairs as a way to kill the pain and provide a release for our stress. I'm sorry that you felt so alone and your extreme intelligence fooled you into beleiving you could handle things yourself. I truly hope that you have been forgiven by God for your sin/s, however I'm having a hard time forgiving your trying to play God in making the decision for life on earth's end for others.
Our heart goes out to all of your extended family and all of the many friends you and your family made along the way.
To: Other law enforcement professionals out their battling with mental illness, please take this as a wake up call to get anonymous help. Who gives a crap if you have to retire, quit, or go into something else because you divulged that you're sick!
The real tough guy/gal is the one who puts aside their ego to get themselves well and happy.
God bless everyone who has been affected by this tragedy. And Dave, I hope that somehow you make it to Heaven.

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MURDERER
I can not believe that there are people who believe Dave McGowan is anything, but a murderer. You & I would be judged by the last 10 minutes of our livers. Why isn't he? Dave McGowan, a highly experienced investiagator could have made this a simple accident....This is a message to the world for Dave McGowan. He knew excatly how we would live with this for the rest of our lives. This goes beyond family. This was meant for all of us. Why isn't Dave considered a Jim Jones, Charles Manson or Jeffery Dammer. I guess it is not what you are, but who you are. I will not let Karen, Chase, Paige & Reine slip away in the dark!!!

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Hard to Fathom
My condolences to the family... Life so precious, so short. Can't imagine the deep pain of your tragic loss, with no apparent reason. I did not know the family, but many of my friends who knew the family,express their confusion and disbelief,dissapointment, and great saddness, I understand these feelings, and hope there will be some clairity some day.
My God bring healing to all.

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Shane and Family
My condolences during this painful time for you and your family. I want you to know that you are loved and have the support of those who have known you and whose lives you've touched here at Kaneohe. Joyce loves you so much and I am so glad she is there for you in your time of need. You are in my prayers. If you need anything at all I'm a phone call away.

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SHANE
Our thoughts and hearts are with you.We are here for you, at Villa Maggio in Pinyon Crest. PLEASE feel free to reach out for us. Our home is your home. Our cell is: 760-408-7255.

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What a sad story
This is such a sad story. I did not know the family in any way, however I would not be quick in rushing to judgement. If David Mcgowan committed these acts we should all try to remember that depression is a mental illness and left untreated can lead to all sorts of horrible things. My heart goes out to the family left behind, particularly Shane. May he find forgiveness in his heart and eventually move on with his life knowing he will see his loved ones again.

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reference to "pain" by "J"
fearing the possibility of pain does not give someone permission to take anothers life..you step forward and admit you have a problem....surely the departments have therapists..surely the officers have to be re-evaluated every few months.. the divorce rate among police officers is probably fairly high.. killing his entire family was not a solution..if the agony of a possible divorce was the motive for his actions, then he was only thinking of the pain and humiliation it would bring upon himself..HE WOULD HAVE BEEN THE WEAK LINK...surely, he couldn't have covered up that amount of pain without someone close to him realizing he was a time bomb waiting to go off...are the officers so jaded that they don't pick up on "tell tale signs" of a good officer about to go bad..people need to be responsible and admit vulnerability before they lose who they are..these journeys are not easy for any of us but we have to be accountable...even the person behind the badge....my prayers go out to Shane who has to carry this burden on his already heavily laden shoulders..this young soldier goes off to war, defends our country and his family, only to find out there's an even closer enemy at home..someone had to know that the fuse was lit..

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I worked with both Dave and Karen as a Dispatcher for CCPD. And I couldn't have known such hard, brave and loving people than this couple. Dave was a wonderful, caring, funny, easy going guy that I had the pleasure of knowing and will always remember him that way. We were very close friends while at the police dept. he was almost like a younger brother. He would do anything for anybody. Knowing Karen from the Fire dept. was another great person to know. I looked up to her as the finest female firefighter this CCFD could have. As tiny as she was, she took no guff from those guys, could out do alot of them and carried both her weight and then some as a firefighter. When they got married they were so happy and Dave was eager to have kids. He loved you Shane I would remember him telling me about the times while you were growing up. They seemed like such an unlikely pair. Dave, the boy next door with that silly grin from ear to ear and Karen always with chew or a cigar in her mouth. I still remember her waddling around the store when she was due with Chase and a toothpick hanging out of her mouth and chewing her tobacco. But, they loved each other. When they lived around the corner from me they would babysit for me and I for them. I could tell so many things about this family and how proud Dave was of them. This has been very difficult for me to handle and is also confusing for my son to understand how this could happen. I still don't believe that the David John that I knew could have done this and I will probably refuse to believe it. All I can do right now is pray and ask God to help me see this through and pray for the remaining family members. Just remember the wonderful, funny, kind memories that this family gave us and try to go on.
My condolences to Shane and the remaining family members of David John and Karen. I love you and will miss you all very much.

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Why?
I've been told that we need not ever ask "Why? because Why is never answered. I have been reading the comments of people who knew this family for years and the one ingredient that I see missing for this seemingly perfect, loving family is their faith in God. Were they a church going family? Not that tragedy cannot happen in Christian families, but one cannot help but notice that no mention of their faith (which some people think should remain private) but at a time like this, what Dave thought about God and a belief in afterlife could be part of the puzzle. When a person sees no hope either in this life or the next, nothingness seems to be an option. The thought occurred to me that perhaps his mother, who recently had moved in with them, could have had ALS (Alsheimer Disease) Does anyone know about her condition? The prospect of living with that could drive a person over the edge. Anyway, for what it is worth, my heart does go out to the remaining son, who never should have had to face this alone. I can only pray that his many friends and family can be of comfort to him now and that his faith in God will sustain him.

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Chance meeting
I just met Dave & Karen a few days before this tragic event. My husband knew Karen through the Fire Service world. (small valley-small world-when you are part of it.) They sat there with a mutually good friend of ours, and just enjoyed the afternoon. They had just bought cigars, enjoying them and kicking back on an incredible Desert late afternoon. She had her feet kicked up on the chair next to her-and "YES" she was enjoying one of those cigars. My husband and Our friend talked about Karen when she was a firefighter. I remember looking at her like- WOW! she is petite- but obviously very SECURE and very comfortable in her own skin. Alot of men couldnt handle what a firefighter endures- and she held her own and her fire career colleagues back that up. I knou Kareoyo9(are in heaven right now- with your lil' ones- & spiritualy- I know you are together and I know one of your lil' ones is still here on earth (they are still little nomatter how old they get)- Shane- my heart so hurts for you- and all other family members & friends. You will have a free pass to heaven - Noone should have to indure this kind of pain. Noone seemed to have saw this coming- it seems so senseless. It has reminded me to PRAY hard everyday for you-them and my loved ones. Stay strong and.. Please God be with him. JC

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Two beautiful people with a great family! Too perfect for this sad world.

Only God will ever know why. Our prayers are with you all.

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Pain
Dave, we worked together for years.We went through some times together Dave and became good friends. You and Shane helped my family move from one home to another. Dave, we were close and in trying to think of reasons I try to think of your belief system. Your family was your life. There was no other priorities stronger that your desire to provide and protect them.This was your passion. There was never a time that I didn't hear you on a phone conversation to Karen from work that you didn't say "I LOVE YOU".

Dave was it possible that KëÓen was leaving you and the thought of your family then being put in a position where you could no longer be the provider and protector that you so strongly desired and lived for created so much pain that in your mind, you made the logical decision to take the steps you thought were necessary to prevent your family from future pain that you believed was a result of divorce? Dave, if so, I know in your mind this was the only logical thing to do and must have been a decision that took you time.

Dave was a very logical person and all of the things mentioned in these postings about him as well as Karen. I loved them both and if this is a possibility, then all I can say is even for Dave McGowan, the pain and human emotion became greater then the logic he always displayed. I am sure Dave thought this was the right thing to do....I only wish for one time I could have been there to tell him he was wrong.

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To Shane
My heart goes out to you at this tragic time in your life. May God be with you and help heal you and give you the strength to bear this terrible loss. You don't know me, but there are many of us out here that wish you the very best and will keep you constantly in our prayers.

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why
I did not know the Mc Gowen family but my heart goes out to Karen's son and other family members. Its so hard to understand how one could kill his entire family and then take his own life. We will never know the reasons why but we can find peace in our hearts, knowing that they are in a better place.

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Confused
I had the pleasure to know and work with Dave at CCPD for several years. He was a kind and caring human being. Thats why I'm so confused that this could have happened. Dave helped me through a very difficult time of my life in 1999 and I will never forget that. I wish that someone could have helped him thought whatever he was going though now. Anyone who knew Dave would agree that he was a wonderful husband,father and friend, as well as public servant. My heart goes out to the family members and friends as they try to piece this horrible puzzle together. May GOD bless your family, Dave.

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To Shane, one of my best friends...
Shane,

Words cannot express how sorry I am. I just heard through the grapevine what had happened, and I have quite a few people (too many to name) from the squadron and AIMD who want to tell you how sorry we are, and your friends are always here for you. You've got many people here and all over the world pulling for you, and if you need someone to talk to you have my number here in Japan. Call anytime. I'm not sure where you will be when I get back, but if you want me to come out there, I'll drop a leave chit in a heartbeat. All of our thoughts and prayers are with you Shane, stay strong, and if you need anything, just ask. We're friends forever!

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Go In Peace
Thanks to the Desert Sun for allowing readers to post their thoughts concerning the McGowan family. I don't think the purpose of this site was to come up with some conspiracy theory or to criticize police administrators for not making a comment. Perhaps like the rest of us, they are at a loss for words. What does one say in these situations? This is not the venue. We should be thinking about the people we have lossed, their memory and how they have touched our lives.

I had the opportunity to work and know Dave McGowan in the 80's and 90's. I found him to be a gentleman, who was friendly and was good at his job.

No one but Dave and the Lord knows what happened that day. We can only hope that they go in peace and that our thoughts and prayers will be with them.

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Both angry and sad
I have known and worked with Dave for over 15 years. Although I only met Karen a few times, I know of her and how she affected those who knew her. To know Dave was a privilege. When I first started law enforcement and came to know him, I couldn’t believe he was a police officer. He was the most calm, level headed and thoughtful person I have ever met. When I needed help or had questions, I could always turn to Dave. He had such a way of talking to you and placing you at ease that you left with a different perspective on things. Dave was one of the greatest officers and best friends I have ever known. Before I had children, I looked at Karen and their kids and thought that’s how life should be!

Knowing Dave the way I do, I have mixed feelings on how to respond to this. I don’t know if I should be angry or sad. Angry because he would do such a thing. Sad because I wonder what demons he had inside that would have brought it to this. Was there something we saw and ignored or didn’t pick up on?

Dave, I’m pissed at you for letting it come to this - I am still in disbelief you could have done such a thing. Having children myself, I am at a loss for words. I am also very sad. Sad you didn’t come to us, your friends. Sad you had something brewing inside that led to this. I believe we will never know why this happened, which hurts that much more. God bless you all.

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Conspiracy Theory
I hope the police are investigating this case closely. All of Dave's friends have said this is not something he would do. I saw former Indio Deputy D.A. McNulty on television stating that Dave had been in charge of his security when a contract was taken out on McNulty's life. How do we know a contract wasn't taken out on Dave's life? And why was this so-called suicide note typed and not written? The fact that no voice was heard on the 911 call is suspicious as well. When something just doesn't seem right, it usually isn't.

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profound sadness
I remember David as one of the kindest and funniest men around.
One time he was dispatched to a dangerous dog call. The dog was a small little thing. Dave felt confident enough to step out of his car and confront the dog. The dog made a beeline right for Dave, chasing him up on the hood of his patrol unit. For days afterwards, whenever Dave called in on his radio, he would hear his fellow officers making barking noises. It made him laugh every time.
I suppose none of us will ever know what snapped in Dave's mind that morning. It wasn't the Dave we all knew. I do know they are all in a better place now.
I can't begin to imagine the profound grief the survivors of this tragedy must be suffering.
I pray that you find strength to get through this horrific time in your lives.

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We will never know
What causes someone to snap? We will never know what triggered this horrific event. I went to school with Karen, my mother went to school with Karen's mother,Carol, and my Grandpa worked with her father as an engineer with the PSFD.
My prayers go out to all the surviving family members. I can not fathom the pain you are all dealing with. There are no words. Just know that millions of people across the country feel your pain and are praying for you. May God be with you and know that we never really die. Love lives eternal.

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Memories never lost
It has been some 13 years since I was blessed to have worked with Karen at CCFD back in the late 80s and early 90s. I was once critical of woman in public safety positions until I met Karen. A small package, who was tough as nails! I will always remember holding on to each others belts while we ventilated a roof together and I never once worried that she would ever let go. Karen, I will never let go of those memories of your tough and gentle spirit.

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Please tell us why
We deserve to know the why. If the dedicated investigators can't find a motive, then please don't just say nothing. Was it possibly a psychotic episode?

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WHY NO WORDS
Tell us why there are no words given by the current Chief of police where David McGowan was employed for over 15 years. Not a word from either Captain where one has professed his belief in God. Not that this would ease the pain or shed light to any reasons as to why. It would just be the right thing to do.

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I went to school with them
One of my friend from out in CA called my and told my the news I couldn't bevelive it. As I looked back Chase was on my baseball team turing one of the summer while I lived out there, and paige was our groups little cheerleading buddy. I cry all night thinking about this. It still really hasn't sunk all the way in yet

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I AM SO SORRY THIS HAPPENED TO YOU SHANE. NOTHING ANYONE CAN SAY WILL BRING YOUR FAMILY BACK. JUST REST ASSURED, TIME WILL HEAL.--

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Reflection and Hope
I had the honor of knowing Dave McGowan when I worked for the Cathedral City Police Department from 1993 through 2002. Early in my tenure there it became apparent to me that Dave was well respected and well liked by his peers and his superiors. Dave was a model officer, and a good man. I worked with Dave on occasion in patrol, and spoke often with him in the hallways. No matter how busy he was, he never hesitated to take the time to answer questions and provide advice to young officers. Dave always made you feel like the questions you had were important to him. I looked forward to working with Dave because I knew that I would learn something, and would have a good time doing so. I share in the shock, sorrow, and confusion surrounding the deaths of the McGowan family. It is a horrible tragedy for the surviving members of their family, their friends, and the Coachella Valley as a whole. My hope is that as time passes the memories of this terrible event will fade, and the families, friends, co-workers, and neighbors will remember the McGowans for the wonderful family that they were.

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To Shane ( You Have A Place to Come)
Shane, you are welcome to come out and stay with me in Las Vegas if you just need to get away from everything for a while. It's going to be hard to deal with all these emotions. Be strong... This is a characteristic that I've witnessed first hand in you whenever we climbed together. Your Mother loved you and we were all extremely proud of the man you had become. You were always the topic of discussion when ever your parents and I talked. I'm out here for you when you need me.

Home (702)363-1378
Cell (702)283-4089

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To Shane (My Growning Up Buddy)
Hey Shane, We haven't spoken in so long and thats because you moved up to the mountains but I really need to talk to you. I spoke to David around November of last year, gave him my phone number so you could call me, but you never called. I know this is hard for you, its hard for me too, your family was like my family. Please call me as soon as you can, its been so long and theres so much we need to talk about. Stay strong dude, you were always there for me and I will always be there for you.

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A Time Is Coming
For those who are Christians, we know, there is a time coming, and we ought "judge nothing before the time, until the Lord come, who both will bring to light the hidden things of darkness..."

ALL will be revealed.

Until then, I cannot accept that Dave McGowan did this terrible deed.

But, a time is coming...

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To Karen
I will always remember your kindness towards me. You helped start my stable when I needed tack and gear. You listened to my concerns, and gave me sage advice. You were a wonderful horsewoman, and a kind friend. I think of you every day as I saddle up or use one of your old bridles. My best endurance saddle came from you, and as I sit in it for miles to come, I will always think of you, and of your beautiful family. You told me once you were living your ultimate dream. And, in your dreams you left us. God speed.

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To Jen, Miles and Kim
Jen, I remember the times we used to take Karen's Jeep out to lunch at school and have so much fun riding around ditching school. I also remember the time we went to Lake Havasu with Karen and Dave. I remember what a fun day we had skiing and jumping off the rocks in Copper Canyon. The day ended so perfect with dinner at your Gramma's. I'm so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you, your Mom and Miles.

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Friend of the Family
I have known the McGowan family for years. Angie, I loved you like my mother, I will miss you. "Jesus said to her, "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in Me, though he may die, he shall live." I know your one of God's angels now. And I love you. For David's brothers and sisters.."Father, remind us that htere is nothing in all creation that we have to face alone. Give us the peace that truly passes all understanding. Amen"
You are all a strong family, and you will get through this. Love each other, and know David loved you all. Remember David how he was, we will probably never know what happened, so do not dwell on it, love each other, and know you have a wonderful family

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MAY GOD GIVE YOU PEACE AND STRENGTH
To Shane and all surviving Family members. You don't know me, but I just wanted to give my condolences through this terrible, terrible time and I am so sorry for your loss. I pray that our Heavenly Father will give you strength through your time of mourning and healing. Always remember what
The Lord said:

"My son, My precious child, I love you and I would never leave you during your times of trial and suffering, when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you."

Read this when you feel you are unable to go forward and take that step, he will carry you through it, just trust in him...

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Where was Dave in all this?
Dave, we met in 1983. You were a dispatcher and I was a cop. You soon became a cop and then promoted to detective. Later you transfered to CCPD. We stayed in touch and recently even had lunch. I sent you a few emails a few months ago but there was no reply. As I watched the events unfold on TV, my mind would not accept those facts. The Dave I knew would have been there saving lives at the risk of is own, not taking them. My mind still rejects all that it has seen and read in the past several days. I tell co-workers that I have known you since 1983, but I never did. The monster that grew inside you was invisible to others. Damn you for distroying the person I put on a pillar. Damnn you for distroying the faith I put in people like you who seemed to really care about others. Damn you for being my friend for some 23 years and never exposing the true you, a killer. Damn you McGowan!

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CCPD Explorer
I was an explorer for CCPD back in 1988-1990. Dave took me out on my first ride along. I chose to do a ride along with Dave, because he seemed to enjoy us “explorers” and gave us respect for wanting to do what he loved, police work
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.


May God bless and forgive you.

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We will miss you all
My deepest thoughts and prayers go out to Shane, the surviving families and friends.

I worked with Dave and Karen both while they were employed with the City of Cathedral City. Working as a dispatcher for many years I was able to enjoy both of them. I did spend more time with Dave since we both worked at the police department. I can't believe it's been 16 years, and for my husband 18 years. Like our children I feel like I grew up with them. It is true you are like family when you work in careers that you spend so much time together. Dave and I still frequently talk on the phone and our discussions always ended up revolving around our families. It is a very sad and confusing time for us all. My heart hurts knowing that Dave had this type of pain or feelings that could not be expressed in any other way. My hope is that everyone has at least one person they can go to in a time of such internal crisis or turmoil. People I have worked with for so many years have become my extended family, not just friends. Knowing Dave and the man he was I will never understand what has happened, we can only now be here for the survivors. Shane, the families and friends you are all in my thoughts daily and I am grieving with you now during this tragic loss.

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Thank You Karen
I worked with both Karen and Dave as Fire Marshal in Cathedral City from 1988 to 1992. Karen was an inspiration and good friend. She loved her Jeep and all kinds of music. She performed her firefighting job with class and dignity, never asking for any special tratment, and always offering to help anyone who needed it. She helped me in my life in ways that she will never know, but for which I shall forever be grateful. She was an "old soul" who had more of a grin than a smile. God Bless the survivors, the family and friends whose lives are all bettr off for knowing Karen. Be strong, Shane, and thank you for serving your country.

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To Bill & Carol and Family
I was so shocked to learn of your tragic loss. It is unimaginable what you must be going through. My heartfelt sympathies go out to you both as well as Kim, Kelly and Frank. Shane, you were just a baby when we last saw each other. Now you're a grown man and a Marine. I am sure your mother is very proud of you. Be strong through this very difficult time. My prayers are with you all to find the strength and courage you will need in the days and years ahead. We are mourning and grieving your loss.

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Talk to me Dave
Dave talk to me...Remember Dave back in the early 90" we worked patrol together at CCPD. We stayed on the same shift's with each other for years with a few other officers that would later become memories as they either resigned or were terminated. We continued to work together for several more years forming a bond and understanding each other so well, all we had to do was give a look...Talk to me Dave...

Remember Dave, our saying to each other when we sensed things weren't going right or one of us were feeling down? You would say "Talk to me now". Remember working patrol with Brad and how you would laugh at how Brad referred to a few of our leaders? Names like "lil buddy, "moron" and "forehead" were used to describe our leaders and the constant battle with the egos we still faced as time went on... Remember Dave I fell on the ground with laughter as that was the way we handled the stress of the job and the constant battle we continued to have with our superiors. me....Remember Dave, our saying "Don't sweat the small stuff... because it's all small stuff".

Talk to me Dave... This wasn't in you Dave...Talk to me...we need to know.

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Editors
Please leave the message the last writer asked to have removed. I think everyone can take it. There is not an appropriate way to recieve this kind of crime and loss. Let us be human beings, with normal, paced, stages of human grief. Anger is an acceptable part of remembering. There are certainly family members feeling a RANGE of emotions.

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Editors
Please remove prior message as it is not appropriate for an area of rememberance and well-wishes to the remaining family. They do not need any more pain . Shame on it's author. Please take your opinions to Letters to the Editor or to regular message boards.
My Heartfelt Condolences to a wonderful family who was well loved.We'll miss you.

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Damn the Guilty. Mourn the Innocent.
A man whos career is investigating and prosecuting felons kills family. Selfish Insanity. People that do things like this are self-centered, egotistical, above the law, power tripping, control freaks that dont care about anybody but themselves. Attitudes like this are fostered in city and county law enforcement agencies. There is nothing great about a father that kills his whole family. How people can come here and praise one of the biggest guilty family murderers on the planet is beyond me. His final actions show a wolf in sheeps clothing. Let us mourn the innocent.

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From this pristine valley...
We who live here often speak of Garner Valley as a little bit of Heaven. It breaks our hearts to know that Dave suffered so that he found it necessary to commit such a horrible crime against his family and himself. We hope that they truly are in Heaven now.

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With Deepest Sympathy
Dear Shane and family,
My name is Helene Kohen, and I live in Garner Valley.I knew David and Karen and their 3 kids. Chase did some yard work for me. He was a wonderful boy, and such a hard worker, like his Mom, with so much ahead of him in his future.
I was truly saddened to learn of this terrible tragedy of your family. I am still in shock, and can't believe they are really gone. I think the most difficult thing to understand and comprehend is the way they died. The loss and regrets must be overwhelming, to say the least.
I am writing to add my sympathy to the outpouring of condolences which must be reaching you now from countless relatives and friends.
I know that it would be futile to try to comfort you. Ordinary words and customary phrases cannot help ease the burden, with such a terrible loss.
Perhaps the greatest comfort lies in the thought that they are all at peace now with the greatest caretaker of them all.
Sending you my sincere compassion for your overwhelming loss during this very difficult time.

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Catherdal City's Public Safety Family
Our prayers are with the family and our former partners and friends at the Cathdral City Fire and Police Departments. Our thoughts are with you as we all try to find reason in this unreasonable tragedy. I know how speical Dave and Karen were to all of you. Only God knows why this tragedy could happen. Contiune to support each other and your families and stay safe.

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To Shane
Shane, I am still shocked about what happened. know that you will always be in my prayers so you can find the peace in your heart after what happened. I remmembered karen, dave and the kids from when My mom used to take cared for the kids and you used to go to school with my brother hector. when you read these words feel free to call me or my famili, hector really wants to talk to you. god bless you always.
760-202-8428

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Karen-Beautiful Person
Karen and I grew up in the Cove. . . we went to Cathedral City Elementary together. Back in those days, I had problems with popular twin girls who would tease and bully me unmercifully. Karen, who saw this from afar, took me under her wing, and made sure that those twin girls would not harass me again. She was unafraid of what others thought - she became my buddy. She spent the night and went to my slumber parties. Karen made me feel as though I was somebody. She meant so much to me. Even though we hadn't seen each other in the past 20 years; Karen will always have a special place in my heart. I love you, Karen. Thank you for being there for me-

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To Shane and Family
I was shocked and saddened to hear of this horrible tragedy. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I remember you as a little boy at my home in Maine. Shane, please feel free to contact me at (207) 225-3305 anytime. I love you.

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A beautiful family lost
I worked with Dave for 14 years. When Dave left our agency, it was a huge loss, not only professionally, but personally. Dave was always the guy who was level headed, calm, generous, polite, funny and placed his family first and foremost. He was the guy you would go to when you needed help with something or had a problem yourself. When you left talking with him, everything made sense.

To hear of this is almost unbelievable. I wonder how such a thing could happen to such beautiful family. Dave, Karen and their beautiful children touched so many lives. I don’t believe we will ever know why this happened. I believe law enforcement needs to do more to identify and help officers in need. To many departments, this is “taboo”, they don’t want to talk about it. Many officers don’t want to seek help for issues and problems out of embarrassment or fear of losing their jobs. We are all human and all subject to the pressures of life, work and family.

As I sit here now, I am still in a state of disbelief. My deepest sympathy to the family members and all those affected by this.

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Let us learn from this
I worked with Dave as a detective at the Cathedral City Police Department from 1998 up until he left in April 2000 for the D.A.'s office. Although my contact with him was brief by some standards, I have always considered Dave my mentor during my tenure there. He taught me a great deal about how to be a good investigator and more importantly, he showed me how to be a caring human being.

To know Dave was to know a person who always had a smile on his face, was unassuming, easy going, level headed, and very, very, family oriented. I also had the pleasure to serve with Dave as board members on the police officers association and knew him as the "go to" guy when one needed a mediator or liaison to help smooth things over when a serious rift or problem occurred. It tears at my heart to think Dave may have held a secret so overwhelming that he felt the only recourse was to do what is alleged.

I believe men, in general, have a hard time expressing their feelings and opening up about matters that they are in real conflict with. Cops are human beings and at times, have matters that cause them to contemplate suicide. Most are reluctant to voice these feelings, as it would be a career-ending move to do so. I pray that we, as law enforcement officers, learn to open up to others in our time of need so this does not happen again.

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To Shane and Family
Shane, I am shocked and horrified to hear of the tragedy that happened to your family. I remember your mother very well and our prayers go out to you and the rest of her family, as well as David's. We respect you for serving our country. We are so sorry for your loss. Please feel free to contact us at any time at 808 250-7485. We would love to hear from you. We love you.

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Broken hearted neighbor
Pinyon Crest residents for several years in the late ninties, Karen, Dave were the epitome the all American dream, kind friends and good neighbors. Dave served with me on the Pinyon Crest Homeowners Board where he quietly helped keep order when sessions sometimes became too contentious. He was unflappable, gentle and kind. Recall one ime when I visited their home to find Karen in the garage, cigar in mouth, measuring the garage doors for major remodeling, while David was out playing in the pool with the then todler McGowans. Talk about role reversal, but whatever,it all seemed to work into what appeared was an exceptionally harmonious family group. Karen painted the entire exterior of my two story house and did a beautiful job, assisted by other family members, including son Shane.
When the family left Pinyon Crest in 2000, I and many members of the community were puzzled by their tacit desire to close the door and move on, as none of us were able to say good bye nor did we ever get any forwarding address, other than to know that they had moved to Garner Valley. My last contact was a year ago in Anza where I encountered Karen and the kids just by chance at the local Circle K. Our time together although brief, was a special reunion of old friends as Karen briefed me on how much she, Dave and the kids were enjoying their new bucolic life in Garner Valley, but never volunteered to give me her address nor did I ask. From my limited perspective, I still refuse to believe this sweet giving man murdered his family as they slept. I know all the elements at the crime scene seem irrefutable, but methinks , to quote the Bard, "there is something rotten in Denmark"...Good bye sweet friends, may God give you peace.

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fOR THE FAMILY SURVIVOR
After all they are resting in peace all together, my prays are for you, may God give you the strenght you will need to keep going on. I never had the chance to meet your beautiful family but I am sure the sky has six new stars shinning. God bless you.

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inspirational
My son was a member of the Cathedral City police reserve.he rode with Dave for one and a half years..Dave was respected and admired for his inspirational qualities ..Dave was the "eagle scout" of the department and their true badge of honor..when Dave left the department, so did my son..The loss, of this fine officer and his family, will leave holes in the hearts of many who had the joy of knowing them...Their souls will dangle like windchimes in the emptiness left behind..be very quiet and listen..

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To The Ones Left Behind
I worked with Dave at the District Attorney's Office. He was a ray of sunshine in the office. He was always smiling and joking around with people and always took the time to say hi and how are you. He never seemed troubled and was always upbeat. The Dave McGowan that I knew did not do this. My heart and prayers go out the the family and coworkers. Dave and his family will always be remembered in my heart.

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It's With A Heavy Heart!
I worked with David in the DA's office. I recall a gentle man with a quick wit and a beautiful smile; always willing to help in any situation. Dave and his family will be missed by so many people (if he only knew the depth of sadness left behind....) My sympathies and prayers go out to Dave's family, friends and coworkers.

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TO KAREN'S FAMILY
DEAR KIM, KELLY, FRANK, CAROL AND BILLY. PLEASE KNOW THAT MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU. I CAN'T BELEIVE SHE'S GONE. MAY OUR MEMORIES KEEP HER ALIVE IN OUR HEARTS. MY LOVE TO ALL OF YOU.

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Karen
Although 5th grade was a long time ago - I have great memories of our time together; we were the very best of friends. We had so much fun; even when I broke my arm at Jim's stables. I remember your mom and grandma making peach pies; listening to The Beatles and Peter Frampton; making our caveman movie - and all the stuff we went through together. You'll always be in my thoughts and my heart. I love you and miss you...

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TO SHANE
I am sick with sorrow over this unimaginable tragedy. I've prayed and cried for the Leonesio and McGowan families in their darkest of times. May God rest the souls of the innocent victims of this horrendous and senseless act of desperation and bring solace to the shattered hearts left behind who mourn and grieve so deeply. I am truly sorry.

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EVEN THOUGH...
Even though I didn't get to visit through the years, I never stopped loving Karen, David, and Shane. My son continued the family relationships with the children and we are both suffering terrible loss. I, too, will never stop loving you and will always remember our great times together.

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May God Shed Light...
I live in Massachusetts but through the news I heard about this tragedy. My heart goes out to the surviving son and the family. Only God knows what happened and why David would take his life and his family's lives. I am so sad over this because you just imagine the pain your family goes through, especially when there is no explanation as to why someone would do this. I pray to God that HE sheds light and helps the family understand what went wrong...

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Remembering Dave
I first met Dave McGowan back around 1987 when I began working at the District Attorney's office in Palm Springs as a prosecutor. The thing that really impressed me about him was the ear-to-ear grin that usually greeted me. Dave was the quintessential All-American boy-next-door. He was a patrol officer for Cathedral City P.D. at the time. I also noticed that the quality of his report writing, and work in general, was impeccable. Davie was one of those rare folks you meet who never was in a bad mood. He later joined my team in 2000 at the DA's office. Ironically, it was the same year I chose to take early retirement to pursue other challenges, like creating a website, teaching, public speaking, and writing. Please understand something. I am a trial lawyer who has been doing this since 1977. I make my decisions...all of my decisions...
based on as careful an analysis of the facts as I know how to make. I realize I don't have the benefit of having the same facts at hand that the Sheriff's Department does, as it issues pronouncements that David McGowan slaughtered his family before taking his own life. However, having said that, I have uninterrupted GREAT difficulty believing that the Dave McGowan I knew for lo those many years is the person who pulled the trigger...six times. Unless and until I am able to review evidence that convinces me beyond a reasonable doubt that he did so, he will remain not guilty of those accusations. Cop or not...Davie is entitled to the same presumption of innocence to which every bad guy he investigated is entitled. How do I know? The U.S. Constitution says so. For whatever it's worth, it's the same one that Dave and I took an oath at the beginning of our respective tours of duty to protect and defend...

Martin C. Brhel, Jr.
La Quinta, CA

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prayers for the family
To Derek and Tammy,
We all are very much praying for so ray of hope for a conclusion to this tragic ending of a very well loved family. Our heart weeps for you both and words cannot make the pain stop, but remember that we are with you in our prayers and hope that some day you can understand why. This is probably the most important question you both have. But God has a way with which He provides for all of us. He too will provide some closure for you both in His own way. Your family in Leavenworth loves you both and we know that Helen and Bill will be your rock throughout this ordeal. Family comforts family. God Bless you all. The Montgomery, Sniders, Milnarks, Roscoes and Carol and Brian.

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prayers for the family
To Derek and Tammy,
We all are very much praying for so ray of hope for a conclusion to this tragic ending of a very well loved family. Our heart weeps for you both and words cannot make the pain stop, but remember that we are with you in our prayers and hope that some day you can understand why. This is probably the most important question you both have. But God has a way with which He provides for all of us. He too will provide some closure for you both in His own way. Your family in Leavenworth loves you both and we know that Helen and Bill will be your rock throughout this ordeal. Family comforts family. God Bless you all. The Montgomery, Sniders, Milnarks, Roscoes and Carol and Brian.

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One of the best I hired
I was the first Police Chief for Cathedral City. (1984-1994) When we opened our doors, I looked for only the best to hire. I remember this young dark haired man sitting across from me in my office. He was an officer with Desert Hot Springs PD. In a matter of minutes, I knew Dave was the kind of person we needed for the department. I always said, "give me a good salesman and I'll make him into a good cop". Dave McGowan was both. The nine years he worked for me, he never let me down.
Dave, for what ever reason took you to this point in your life, I will picture you the first day we were in my office.

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May their surviving son find peace...
I can not believe that you have to face this tragedy when you come home from serving this great country. May you find strength and courage to carry on and find peace. Sorry for your loss, K.Small and family, La Quinta

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GOD BLESS THEM ALL
We do not know what went wrong.It just went wrong.Thats it.I lost my brother(40) last July.. suicide,he was quiet and alot on his mind. visit : www.suicide.com
TALK about it,breavement groups and professionals help
I have been there myself suicide is a living hell.OK now.Meds help.
Keep your own mental health,heath-
thy.TALK Precious,precious people.Condolences to all.

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A FAMILY MEMBER
They were great people, loving people i would have loved to say good bye but unfortunatly i did not have the chance, all i wanted to say was that i love you all and always will remember you!! autny Karen you were the greatest!! CHASE, PAIGE RAYNE, I LOVE YOU!!YOU GUYS WERE THE BEST!!! YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN MY HEART!!!

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What a shock.
I want to give my deepest sympathy. I would of never,in a million years, thought this would happen to such a great person. I knew Dave back in the 80's. He was such a loving and caring man.I met him when I lived in DHS. He was a police officer for DHS police dept. We dated for a long time and he was always doing something nice. I remember one time he went to the zoo with me, my sister and my nephew. I wasn't sure who was having more fun Dave or my nephew B.J. I really wonder what he was thinking for him to do something so bad. GOD BLESS.

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Dave
I am the guy who introduced the two while working along side Dave as a young Police Explorer at the Cathedral City Police Department and simultaneously working along side Karen as a Volunteer fireman at Riverside County Fire Department, Station #34 in Cathedral City. I introduced them because they were a perfect match, regardless of Karen's chewing tobacco habit and Dave's disgust with same. They were both so very energetic and competitive. They went jet skiing one summer weekend and to me, the rest was a tale of romance and marital bliss. I am just shocked and stunned and believe it or not, speechless for once in my life, except for this attempt to convey my condolences to the survivors of both families. Shane, feel free to call me at any time. 605-390-2327 I will attempt to get emergency leave immediately so I may get home to pay my respects.

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Im sorry
I didnt realy know paige that well butshe talked to me sometimes

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Shocked and Saddened by Tragedy
It's hard to believe that something so horrible could happen to someone like this. I've known Dave since 1985 when I was a nurse doing blood draws for CCPD. My former husband, Tony Marley, was a Police officer at CCPD and worked with Dave as well. Dave McGowan was one of the kindest men I know. I will never forget his very infectious grin. In 1996 When I came home to find an intruder in my home Dave was one of the investigators. He was so supportive, calming and reassuring at a time when I was very scared and upset. He was always available to answer all my questions. After one panicked phone call he dropped everything and showed up at my door within minutes when the media was camped out in front of my house. My heart breaks for the entire McGowan family and for Karen's family, as well. What unimaginable situation could lead to such a tragic end for this man and the family he loved?

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Memorable Family
I live in Pinyon Crest, a small community in Mountain Center, California. Karen and David McGowan and their four children were close neighbors prior to their moving to Garner Valley, about a 15-minute drive from here. Our community loved the McGowans - their generous, humble and conscientious nature defined them as a model family. Those of us who knew them are in deep mourning as we try to comprehend the incomprehensible. Personally, I would like Shane to know that I'm here for him if he needs support. He has many friends in Pinyon Crest who feel likewise. Whatever the reasons for this senseless tragedy, my admiration and memory of this rare and beautiful family will endure.

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The Endless Summer Day
I met Dave when I first started with CCPD. I was part of the IT Support team. I quickly became his personal computer guy. He had a unique way of looking like a lost puppy when it came to anything technical. Threw this position, we became immediate friends. I spent many beautiful days with the McGowan family climbing, Skiing and hiking all over California and Nevada. There wasn’t a more generous family that I had ever met in my life. The love that they all shared was a vision of beauty and contentment. I remember a time last summer when I went to stay with Dave and his family for the weekend. We all went surfing for the day down in San Diego and then came home to a gorgeous sunset in Garner Valley on the McGowan’s patio. We had Margaritas and Mexican food, played guitar and sang old rock songs with the whole family by an open fire till it was time to go to bed. The experience was the perfect endless summer day. This is the day that I will always remember spending with the McGowan family. The closeness that I was allowed to be a part of was something I will always remember close to my heart. These are the times I will miss most of all.

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Fire family memories
Jeff was Karen's captain when she worked for Cathedral City Fire Department. I remember Shane coming by for visits when Karen was on duty. Karen was delighted when she and Dave had their younger children and had finished building their dream home. Karen was an exceptional, dedicated professional who loved to work hard and was admired by her peers. She could handle any dangerous situation and Jeff really enjoyed the opportunity to work with her. We became very close during those years. Dave would call Jeff and meet him for dinner when Dave was near Laguna for business. Dave and Karen never mentioned or indicated that there were any problems that would have resulted in this tragedy. Our deepest sympothy goes out to Shane and his family. The Fire family will always be there for you and will deeply miss Karen, Dave, Chase, Page and Rayne. The only thing that we can make any sense of, is that Dave wanted to protect his family from what ever danger lurked behind his non-asuming character.

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Very Sorry for the McGowan Tragedy
I heard of this tragedy on the news. I am so saddened that a man could take the lives of his own children..his own family! Truly shocking! My heart and prayers go out to the surviving son in Iraq! I wish someone could have seen this coming and prevented it. I don't sit in judgement of David..I just don't understand tragedies of this nature! My sympathy and condolences to your community as you go through the grief of this loss! I hope someone finds answers to why Dave did this...

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Great Person
I first met Dave in 1983 when he stopped me one night in DHS. I moved to the valley from LA when hired by PSPD. I was just driving around on my day off getting familiar with the surroundings. He was helpful and friendly then as he was now. I had been friends with him since. This is unimmaginable to me as I echo the voices of other writers on what a great person he was. I spoke to Dave at the fairgrounds in February. He looked upbeat as usual. I am in shock. My prayers go out to his family.

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My Hero
I met David when I worked at CCPD many years ago. He was such a kind, gentle, caring person. I remember he took me for ridealongs. Wherever we drove, regardless of the neighborhood, people of all ages would wave and greet him. Everyone loved David. He was my hero because of how he treated others - with respect and compassion. He always had time to listen - no matter which was going on. We are devastated by the news and cannot understand why this has happened. God bless you all. My deepest sympathies to your families.
Lucy

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gift of gab
I worked with Dave for 10 years at CCPD and he was my Training Officer after I joined the department from RSO. He had the greatest gift of gab and could diffuse any stressful situation with his wit and common sense. The smartest police officer I ever worked with; never angry or upset, always smiling. Our prayers are for the entire McGowan family and their many friends.

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To Shane and Family
We heard the shocking news. You are in our prayers and we love you.

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long time friend
Dave was a friend of mine for over 24 years, since our high school days in Riverside. None of this makes sense. He was one of the kindest, nicest, funniest people I have ever known. My deepest sympathies go out to Dan and Darryl his two brothers, his sister and mother.
Yuma, Arizona

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great people
I'm in shock. I knew the family because they were neighbors of some friends who lived in Pinyon Crest. They were wonderful. Dave also patroled the football games at Cathedral City High. He always had a smile and would make you laugh. This has affected me deeply.

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sage, torrin, emi, and alex miss chase, paige, and rayne
Chase, Paige, and Rayne:

You were our classmates, and we are so sorry. We miss you and will always remember you. Sage loved to have you come to her class and be her kindergarten reading buddy, Rayne. Torrin enjoyed having you in his class for two years. Be at peace. You were such nice kids...why you?

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What a tragedy!
I knew Dave when I worked at the D.A.'s Office. A very quiet, unassuming man who was a great pleasure to work with. He had a wonderful sense of humor and will be greatly missed! Our sympathies are extended to their families!

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Share your memories, prayers
The Coachella Valley was shaken by the tragic events that occured at the McGowan family home. Share your memories of the family or your prayers and well-wishes for their survivors.

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